So what I need help with is, how can I honestly explain Legitimately in a way she will understand or believe me that I didn't want this, and that I should have said no but made the mistake of not saying no when the kissing and touching began. She doesn't believe that I felt guilty or regretted it after and she feels that "If you loved me you would've said no, If you loved me you wouldn't have done anything, if you loved me this, if you loved me that." and not once have I blamed her for saying that but having this thrown in your face everyday when you still deal with it yourself when you have the time to think about it is bad enough. Guilt trips aren't fun to deal with and this is one that I need to get out of now so that her and I can be adults for our two children that we have, and we had one at that given time this occurred. We need to work it out and work our way through it, but she is not willing to be cordial and work it out as mature adults instead of childish irrational kids.
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